DEVELOPMENT

You will find here all my articles relating to peronal development and learning.


SEEKING ATTENTION AT ALL COSTS

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH March 15, 2024

Everyone wants a bit of attention from time to time, it's a natural need for validation of our efforts. However, the constant need for attention is worrying, and shows symptoms of an underlying mental health problem...

WEAPONIZED INCOMPETENCE

DEVELOPMENT February 15, 2024

Weaponized incompetence occurs when an individual consciously demonstrates ineptitude in order to avoid certain tasks or responsibilities, causing others to step in and perform the task for him or her. This way of thinking and proceeding creates an imbalance in any professional and/or personal relationship, showing that one colleague/partner is not performing well enough, while others have to pull out all the stops to make up for this lack of performance...

TOXIC PEOPLE

DEVELOPMENT January 15, 2024

Toxic people always find a way to sneak into our lives. Not only can toxic people ruin our lives and hinder our progress, but they often drag us down and can turn us into toxic people in turn...

GETTING OUT OF THE SLUMP

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH December 15, 2023

Many of us have found ourselves faced with a feeling of being down and out, of having no inspiration or motivation, and it's not uncommon for this feeling to last for weeks, months or even years. Getting out of this dark cloud requires us to be proactive when we feel we can’t...

STAYING MOTIVATED AFTER WORK

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH November 15, 2023

It would seem that we should base ourselves on motivation, so that the events of our personal and professional lives stop haunting us and affecting those close to us. This same motivation is often exploited by psychologists, sociologists and scientists, both to praise it and to denigrate it...

HACKING OUR 24 HOURS

DEVELOPMENT October 15, 2023

Whether it's renovating the bathroom, starting a blog or exercising more, there's always something more we'd like to do, when our days already seem too full. The truth is that we can save time, without it being deducted from our sleep schedule...

THE STAGES OF MEMORY

DEVELOPMENT September 15, 2023

Memory is a complex process involving a number of different, sometimes unsuspected, stages. By understanding the sequences behind these stages, we can better understand how our memory works and how it influences the quality of our recall...

THE SUBVOCALIZATION

DEVELOPMENT August 15, 2023

Subvocalization is that little inner voice that we can hear when we read (we don't all hear it). Some people think it's necessary to get rid of it, others don't...

THE GREY ROCK STRATEGY

DEVELOPMENT July 15, 2023

The « Grey Rock » strategy is to make ourselves boring (colourless) and unresponsive (immobile), in order to minimally engage with narcissists, manipulators, and their circuses…

INFORMATION FATIGUE

DEVELOPMENT June 15, 2023

In the era of technology and information, we are constantly exposed to an overwhelming amount of data. This information overload can lead to a phenomenon called information fatigue. In this article, we will explore the causes of information fatigue, its detrimental effects, and the strategies available to cope with it…

THE WEIGHT OF PROMISES

DEVELOPMENT May 15, 2023

All too often we make promises lightly, because we make them without thinking or simply to reassure the other person. However, this nonchalant attitude can have real repercussions...

ESCAPING PERNICIOUS PARENTS

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH April 15, 2023

We laugh when movies and television show us, in a comical way, children taking care of childish, incompetent and/or toxic parents. But in reality, things are much more scathing...

THE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

DEVELOPMENT March 15, 2023

For many people, fulfilled relationships mean sharing a healthy, happy and fulfilling relationship with a loving partner, while for others the relationship is complicated, even strategic...

PARASOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS

DEVELOPMENT February 15, 2023

While some research on parasocial relationships usually focuses on the friendly bonds between a user and a media character (a celebrity, an influencer, a fictional character, an anime character) or any other figure they encounter through media, series, movies, podcasts, TV shows, radio shows via social media platforms (Twitter, Instagram or TikTok, ...), let's discover together the hidden side of these relationships ...

SOCIAL MEDIA AND MENTAL HEALTH

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH January 15, 2023

Social media/networks have become an omnipresent part of our daily lives. This is neither a good nor a bad thing in itself, but a new facet of our social life that we need to be fully aware of and to protect our mental health against...

LISTENING WITHOUT INTERRUPTING

DEVELOPMENT November 15, 2022

Letting another person speak without interrupting is often presented as the obvious basis for communication. It is not necessarily a matter of listening to the end of a long speech, but also of doing so within the framework of a thought that has not yet been fully expressed when the interlocutor has the floor...

LET'S USE OUR IMAGINATION

DEVELOPMENT May 15, 2022

Creativity, some are overflowing with it, others think they don't have any and still others perceive it as a waste of time and energy. Let's find out why we should take the time to cultivate this tool and the powers it hides...

TO FAIL AND TO GET UP AGAIN

DEVELOPMENT April 15, 2022

We often hear about failures : a role refused to an actor/actress despite a promising audition, an entrepreneur whose project is considered scabrous when everything seemed to indicate that it would be revolutionary, etc. And yet, these are the same people who end up reaching for the stars and find their spot among them. So why are we so afraid to try anything, just by fear of screwing up…

THE IMPORTANCE OF OUR DARK SIDE

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH March 15, 2022

In childhood, we were afraid of the dark. But once the light came back on, we could see that what scared us was part of our environment. Unfortunately, we have learned to be afraid of the dark, because it symbolizes the unknown and the negative. Yet it is our ally...

MUSICAL EMOTION

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH February 15, 2022

Listening to music is quite common in our daily lives. But the desire to listen to music comes from its influence on our various emotional and affective factors associated with...

SURVIVING A SUICIDE ATTEMPT

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH January 30, 2022

Suicide has long been a serious public health problem. That is why we need to talk about suicide and keep talking about it. This subject remains taboo for many people even though suicide attempts are significantly more frequent than we think...

LET'S TALK THERAPY

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH January 15, 2022

One of the most misunderstood and misperceived practices is therapy. Yet it has the power to change our lives, it is essential for our growth and for healing some of our wounds. And although mental illnesses are strongly stigmatized, our mental health is important and detrimental...

A HEALTHY BODY FOR A HEALTHY MIND

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH December 15, 2021

We all know it, practicing a sport activity regularly is great for our body. Practicing sports helps us protect our cardiovascular system and strengthen our immune system, while promoting our sleep and increasing our metabolism. But what we know less is that practicing sports is also beneficial for our neurons...

A HEALTHY MIND IN A HEALTHY BODY

DEVELOPMENT / HEALTH November 15, 2021

When it comes to health and wellness, physical health is the first thing that comes to mind. However, we are not told much about mental health. However, this includes our psychological, social, emotional well-being and affects our way of thinking, feeling and acting on a daily basis...

GIVING US THE PRIORITY

DEVELOPMENT January 15, 2021

It is easy to forget or put aside our needs when our work environment, our surroundings (our day, in general) require our presence or our intervention. If we let ourselves get caught up in these elements, let ourselves be influenced by others, and we lose track of what is good for us, we must find our way back to our priorities...

CALIBRATING OUR STATE OF MIND : The practice

DEVELOPMENT December 15, 2020

Let's face it, we will be made fun of. We will feel insecure. We won't always be the best. We will occasionally feel alone, but we are also and above all the only ones who can change our life...

CALIBRATING OUR STATE OF MIND : The theory

DEVELOPMENT November 15, 2020

If we feel like we have sleepwalked for a long time without noticing the limits that have been imposed on us or those that we have imposed on ourselves, and now we can see them being obstacles, we need to understand them and make meaningful changes and sustainable to our life to not to fall back into their faults...

GROWING WITHOUT THE SUPPORT OF OUR RELATIVES

DEVELOPMENT August 30, 2020

We have worked a lot on ourselves, having changed our habits or taking development courses, and those around us are not encouraging or eager to grow with us. And suddenly, this long road seems like nothing but disappointment. Let’s not let our efforts evaporate...

DISCOVERING WHO WE TRULY ARE

DEVELOPMENT January 15, 2020

The growing number of people who are exhausted and in search of a better life does not coincide by accident with the rise in popularity of PERSONAL development books and videos...

WHAT WE MUST LEAVE BEHIND US

DEVELOPMENT December 15, 2019

Do we feel that judgment, negative talk, and anger are a big part of our day or of us? Looking at how we are feeling and being honest with ourselves gives us the opportunity to know how to adapt and progress from now on...

WHAT WE NEED TO REMEMBER

DEVELOPMENT November 15, 2019

No one can break us, unless we allow it. The opinions of others don't matter, unless we value them. What matters is what we say to the person standing, every morning in the mirror...

BRAIN SABOTAGES

DEVELOPMENT October 15, 2019

In November 2018, I presented Mel Robbins' book « Stop Saying You’re Fine ». Since then I have delved into the subject and discovered some psychological factors that use our synapses against us...

UNSOLICITED ADVICE AND OPINIONS

DEVELOPMENT August 30, 2019

Some feel compelled to give us advice, because they think a shy person is looking for help and a silent person has no opinion. But unsolicited advice is also a domination attempt...

CONTINUOUSLY IMPROVING

DEVELOPMENT August 15, 2019

We all have an area/sector in which we want to improve (whether professional or personal). Either way, we know there is a lot we can accomplish. What is important is to keep learning, in addition to training our brains, we expand our skills and extend our well-being...